My son is 20 and he does have a sex life. I ask him for details about it and he says “I would rather not tell you details about my sex life just know it is enjoyable and I am using protection.” But that wasn’t good enough for me I had to know the details. My husband said “You should mind your own business he is an adult and I personally don’t want to know what he does or what happens to him.” But he’s my son I have to know the details. So I went into his apartment when he wasn’t there and installed a video a camera and a bug so I could watch him. I saw that he has a 46 year old girlfriend for FWB partner and they were having sex and she was saying “Do you like it when mommy does this” and he replied “Yes mommy I do please dominate me mommy” It grossed me out! I can’t get it out my head. I told my husband and he said “You brought this on yourself I told you you might find something out you don’t want to know.” How should I confront my son?
Edit: Don’t talk about how I installed cameras watched him. Talk about how he called her “mommy”.