Oh cool … A reply from a girl? Great .. and quite a stunning one too .. fabulous.


Well … sorry to tell you this, but you have absolutely no experience with neither being an average man or probably for that matter dating an average man … I dare say that you have no idea what you’re talking about 😀

Btw … No offence. This isn’t a dig on you, but I’d love to hear your comments on this. I’ve posted similar as advice a couple of times and either it’s just ignored .. or the guy in question tells me I’m an idiot and that he is not a sleeze bag like me .. or simlar.


Even without being pushy, the overly sexual approach is going to make most people uncomfortable.

Yeah well .. the problem is the world “overly” and I wrote that mostly as a challenge. To get OP out of his shell and experiment.

Sure, “Overly sexual” is rarely going to be good .. but remove “overly” and suddenly it’s a different ball game

But before I elaborate let us also add the next part of your comment


It could also give the girl the idea that he’s only interested in a hookup.

OK .. Now here is the deal. I assume OP is just some average dude. I don’t think he is ugly, but doubt he is good looking. Just your run of the mill bloke.


Now here is the issue with guys like us. Among us are a lot of severely lonely schmucks. You know .. The type that will take any girl. If she gives him the slightest attention then he is falling for her .. You know what I mean, right?


Ok, so our biggest concern is to not be that guy. The moment she thinks we’re one of those guys it’s game over. So what are your tools? It’s a 3 step program.

Step 1: Never be needy

Never demand anything, never pressure or push. Just be matter of fact’ly and just offer stuff. Clear signal that you’re offering yourself, but whether she accepts your offer or not does not have much in terms of consequence. You’re a balanced individual who’s life will go just fine tomorrow.

Please note that saying “I’m looking for a relationship” is fine .. but if you say “I’m looking for a relationship with you” then it’s game over.


Step 2: Go up close and personal.

Engage in girl. Most guys can ask questions, but seems like few can follow up. You ask, she replies and you go “Does that mean?” and dig deeper. Or you go “You said this and you said that .. This leads me to belive that …”. If the claim you come with is outrageous then fine .. You want to show proper interest and you want to define yourself as a separate individual from her. A guys that sees both her good sides and bad sides. A guy that differs from her .. but ultimately also a guy that sees something in her despite being aware of her bad sides.


And now the moment we’ve all been waiting for

Step 3: Sexual escalation

You see, we’ve established that you can’t really go all feelings and relationships on her. You gotta show that you’re cool as a cucumber and know your way around women. That is done by escalating sexually and initiating a hookup. You want a relationship with this woman, you better get her horny, get her naked .. and then play the winning card, which is to clearly signal after sex, that she is free as a bird. Sure, you’d love to see her again, but you’re fine with the fact that she has to do her. BOOM!


How do you do sexual escalations. Well some women are just not sexual and tbh I’m not the best to handle that type of woman. Also not really interested in that type of woman, so there is that ..

But luckily most aren’t .. at least in my experience. Most women like sex and there is a lot of ways to open that door. Early date you can go “Listen, you’re cool and it seems like we have great chemistry. Just so you know, if this continues then I’m going to do by best to get you naked later on” followed by normal date for the next couple of hours.

If you sense that she is giving of a kinky vibe you can go “Hmm .. You know what .. You don’t strike me as a girl that is into tender love making with the lights out” … Most kinky girl will light up at that comment actually.

There is a zillion things you can do and say. The only rule is that you can never be pushy or needy and that is she pulls back then you take that with a big smile, change the subject and continue being awesome and fun.

Later on when you instigate making out or whatever .. It’s still important that you’re honest and direct. Don’t do shitty stuff like putting your hand on hers and hoping for the best (great if she is into you .. creepy as hell if she isn’t). Announce it first or tell her to give you her hand .. or something in between.


The way we get relationships is this

Fun/chemistry -> sex -> ??? -> more sex -> relationship, feelings and all that jazz.


And I feel like it takes a lot of self confidence to even try that in the first place.

Yeah .. well .. Gotta be just fine with the fact that not every woman is going to dig you and if it doesn’t work out then it doesn’t work out. But the thing is. If you don’t do it as an average dude .. Then chances are it just won’t work out … At least in my experience


Cheers 🙂