That is not even remotely true to be completely honest here. Honestly I think it’s better and more fair to the other person here to be the way they were about issues you may have, the fact that being these these is looked down upon is nonsensical in my opinion, because for example here, they’re giving a clear indication of something that has had a profound impact on major subjects here, and is likely going to have an impact on future happenings, it’s better than springing your issues on someone a month or a few months down the road, so long as it’s done in an appropriate way, which I believe it was here, there’s no indication of how long they have been engaging here, they cut out the rest of the context intentionally, maybe for all we know they asked why the other was on the subject in question before this and they were just being honest

There’s nothing wrong with indicating early on that this has happened, it doesn’t necessarily mean you’re still stuck on something you should not be either, but what it does do, is give an indication that you might be sensitive or strange about certain aspects of any conduction of you

Putting it out on the table is something that needs to be less perceived as unacceptable, there would probably be a lot less shitty garbage the end up ending after the person relaxes and starts acting like themselves if people were more honest from the get-go instead of this idea or impulse to be someone you’re not to conform to the idea of what you think others would find more pleasing, then having them learn down the line about how you really are, and things subsequently failing because they don’t like it

That’s just my two cents though, I find the honesty refreshing. And really, it’s ridiculous to assume they’re just bringing it up out of the blue when everything before has been intentionally made to give a more basic picture of this specific interaction and trying to make it fitting for this subreddit as possible. This whole thing would be a lot less funny if they had specifically asked why they was there, or how they weren’t taken before they initiated that specific aspect of discussion